Turning 50: Part 5 – In the End, It’s People That Matter
My observation is that when a cool kid/adult is eating alone, people think “he/she chose to be alone”, but when an uncool kid/adult is eating alone, people think “he/she was left alone”. 😅
Well, this perception isn’t always right, because I’m an uncool adult who often chooses to be alone. Being a strongly introverted person, I just feel a lot more comfortable doing things alone (including photography), as I get easily drained and exhausted in social situations.
By the way, my favourite joke from the COVID time was this. 😅
“As an extreme introvert, I was self-quarantining before it was cool.” — Joshua Fields Millburn
So, consciously or subconsciously I’ve avoided people and always searched jobs that require minimum interactions with people. 😅 I’ve managed to survive this way until this age, but the downside is that I’ve become a near 50-year-old man who doesn’t know how to behave socially. 😂
That said, deep down inside myself, I know it’s people that matter in the end. Today, I still enjoy “me time” very much, but I might feel miserable when I’m at 70 or 80. So, I’m slowly trying to get out of my shell and be a bit more social in recent years, attending WordPress meetups, etc., but I’m sure I’ve come across as a little awkward (maybe not just “a little” 😅).
I’m not trying to change who I am, though, as I’m very comfortable being my uncool and introverted self. It’s just that it’s probably a good idea to bring a few more like-minded people to my life going forward. 😀
Read All Series
PART 1 Turning 50: Part 1 – Young at Heart or Immature?
PART 2 Turning 50: Part 2 – Aging Is Preparation
PART 3 Turning 50: Part 3 – Underrated and Under-appreciated Corporate Life
PART 4 Turning 50: Part 4 – Life Begins at Retirement
PART 5 Turning 50: Part 5 – In the End, It’s People That Matter
PART 6 Turning 50: Part 6 – 50 Is the Time to Rethink about Life Going Ahead
PART 7 To Be Released on 7 July
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Well, you have a quality that is very likeable – humour! It comes out so beautifully in your writing and I don’t think you come across as “awkward” at all 🙂.
Thank you for your kind word! Maybe it’s my online persona. 😅 In real life, I often give an awkward first impression, then it takes long for people to understand me. 😅
Almost 9 years after retirement, I am finding it is people and connections that keep me happiest. Covid certainly threw a monkey wrench into the mix and it took some time to get back out there. Will see how I feel by 70, in a few months. Cheers and happy day Joey. Allan
Thank you Allan! Especially after retiring, I guess it’s people that matter. Hard to spend a lot of free time alone or just a few same faces. 😅 Continue going strong and enjoy your days at 70 and beyond!
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I think there’s lots of people out there like you who get tired from social interactions, I know I used to. I think as long as you’re happy with the way you are and your situation then that’s all that should matter!
Yes, it’s almost funny how exhausted I get in such social situations. 😂 Yes, nowadays I’m very comfortable being who I am.
Thanks for sharing this idea. Anita